We tried and tried. Or at least I tried. I was certain we could avoid all those boy/girl preferences and raise our kids "gender neutral." Even still, Amanda loved pink, purple, and princesses for years. She now prefers a pretty blue. And even still, Aidan is now fascinated with wrenches. He found a huge one yesterday in the garage and carried it around the house all day.
Why?
I don't know. I don't know why he would want to carry a big, heavy wrench with him upstairs, downstairs, inside, outside. (Why was he not in school? Long story best not told.)
"Tell Dad I have his wrench," Aidan officially said to me when Bob called home. I did.
So last night when we did our secret reading cuddle before bed, Aidan balked when I started singing Rock-a-bye-Aidan. Not baby, but Aidan. No, that still doesn't work.
Ok, how about this for a goodnight song, in a gruff voice with no melody, "You're a really big boy with a heavy, strong wrench. . ." He thought it was a dumb song. But this morning for breakfast, Aidan was delighted to find a second wrench by his breakfast bowl. A surprise from Dad.
I don't get it. I think it's time for me and Amanda to watch the "RENT" DVD. Bob and Aidan are not interested.
Take care everyone.
With love, T
Terri and all -
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Love,
Kristy
Terri - A book you may find helpful in understanding those male/female differences is "The Female Brain." It's written by a neuro-psychiatrist but in very easy language. It's also good and explaining those baffling things that happen to men and women's personalities as we grow through all the stages of life. I found it fascinating. It will be illuminating for you regarding your amazing daughter as well.
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Val
Val, I'm heading to the library now to look for this book. I love neurology stuff. Thanks for your comment. I miss the parking lot counseling you and Steve used to give me. ;-) T
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